By Sara Steven
Single parent Heather isn't neurotic (honest!) — she's simply dreading the day her only child leaves for university — so her meticulous checklists grow longer by the hour. When she seeks advice from a parents' forum, she clashes with Scott, a single dad, whose "helpful" statistics and assertions about "helicopter parenting" leave her fuming.
Move-in day delivers the ultimate surprise: their daughters aren't just room-mates — they're self-declared best friends for life.
Despite their intentions to avoid relationships at all costs, unpredictable events keep throwing Heather and Scott together, making it increasingly difficult to ignore each other... (Synopsis courtesy of Goodreads.)
Heather and Scott are complete opposites; Heather needs mass amounts of control in her world in order to feel safe, and Scott claims he doesn’t need to be in control at all, although the verdict is out on that. To him, Heather is a helicopter parent who has too much say in how her daughter Georgia lives her life, and for Heather, Scott has been a total hands-off parent with his daughter Brianna, convinced he’s taught her how to be self-sufficient and independent that way. Truthfully, both parents are dealing with their newfound empty nest situations–and both are struggling with it in their own ways.
The need for control (or lack thereof) comes from the experiences both characters have had in their pasts. Heather has seen a lot of absence, and Scott has dealt with a lot of loss. Despite how completely different they are from one another, there are plenty of ways they meet in the middle and can understand what it feels like to lose someone they loved and cared about. It causes Heather to cling too tightly to her daughter and not let anyone in. For Scott, he wants his daughter to take care of herself at all cost, creating a bit of distance from her. It’s like the best of both worlds for parenting would be to meet in the middle of those parenting styles, which starts to happen the more time Heather and Scott spend together.
There are chat messages in The Freshman Parents between Scott, Heather, and the rest of the freshman university parent group, and I could really relate to the dialogue there, having my own child who is in college, with another one right on their heels in high school. While both of my kids still live at home, I imagine the day either (or both) of them move out will be incredibly hard for me, and such a huge adjustment. The various questions asked and the advice given in the parent group is reminiscent of what I’d imagine for my own support group, should I need that someday. It takes a village to raise a child, but what happens to the parents once that job is done?
Both Heather and Scott have some hidden secrets they’re keeping from one another, mostly in an effort to lay low and not succumb to drama. But in not being completely honest, they put a lot of doubt on their budding relationship, which makes them wonder if it’s even worth getting involved. Over time, they see more than what they’d originally assumed–maybe Heather isn’t such a control freak. And Scott cares a lot more than he lets on. The high dive into what it takes to try to heal from the proverbial empty nest syndrome and come out at the other end mostly unscathed was fun, touching, and a worthy five-star experience!
Thanks to Rachel's Random Resources for the book in exchange for an honest review.
Ko loves meeting people with interesting stories to tell and is constantly on the lookout for knotty story themes, particularly involving women navigating the messiness of life. She has worked as a Research Chemist, Assistant Chef, Teacher and School Leader.
As well as writing, Ko works as a Business Manager and provides listening services for a mental health charity aiming to reduce the number of deaths caused by suicide.
In her free time Ko loves to run, meditate and travel; preferably all on the same day.
Ko has been married for 25 years, has two children, and is now navigating her own empty nest.
The Freshman Parents is Ko’s debut novel and is the first in ‘The Empty Nesters’ series.
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